A Little Love From Beyond The Grave

 The corpse bride 

A must watch 

You know maybe thats why The Corpse Bride hits different when you’re older……

When you’re younger, you see a dead bride, a creepy wedding, skeletons dancing around and a sad love story. But when you’re older, you start seeing yourself, your friends, your almost-relationships, and all those situations where someone wanted to be loved so badly that they accepted being someone’s almost.

If you haven’t watched The Corpse Bride, let me give you a little story first. 

Emily was a young woman who fell in love with Lord Barkis, a man her parents didn’t approve of. So they secretly planned to run away together and meet in the forest at night. Emily arrived wearing her wedding dress, carrying her family’s jewels and gold along with, believing they were going to start a new life together.

She is quite the diva if you ask me lol

But Barkis had only pursued her for her family’s fortune. He robbed her, attacked her, and left her to die in the forest. The movie doesn’t show exactly how he killed her, but we know that Emily died there.

Her body was later buried beneath the tree where she had been left to die.

Emily becomes The Corpse Bride.

 Years later, Victor (a young man) had run into the forest because he was nervous about marrying Victoria and had forgotten his wedding vows during the rehearsal. He began practicing them aloud and, when he finally got them right, he placed his wedding ring on Emily’s finger, thinking she’s part of a tree ( this is the same tree where Emily was buried under)

Well… turns out she wasn’t a tree 

This is the part where she rose from the dead 

Emily rose from the dead and considered herself married to Victor because :

1. Victor said the marriage vows.
2. He placed the wedding ring on her finger.
3. She was a dead bride who had been waiting beneath that tree for someone to come and marry her.
4. Therefore, she interpreted Victor’s actions as a genuine marriage proposal and wedding.

The problem? Victor’s heart belonged to Victoria.

(I know I’m a bad story teller )

And this is where the movie had me think about relationships in real life, not just romantic ones but platonic ones too.

Do you love me, or do you love being chosen?

Sometimes we become attached to the feeling of being wanted rather than the actual person.

Someone gives you attention, makes you feel special, sends you good morning texts, flirts with you, and suddenly you’re emotionally invested.

But being wanted isn’t always the same as being loved.

Emily wanted someone who would choose her. After everything Barkis did to her, Victor’s accidental commitment probably felt like finally getting the love she had been denied.

But Victor didn’t actually choose her.

And I think that’s an important difference.

When someone gives you mixed signals 

We’ve all seen some version of this.

The person who acts like they want you but never actually commits. The person who gives you just enough attention to keep you hoping. The situationship where you’re constantly wondering, “So… what are we?”

Victor isn’t exactly doing this intentionally, but his situation with Emily reminded me of it.

Sometimes someone can care about you, enjoy your company and still not want the same relationship you want.

And unfortunately, affection can sometimes be mistaken for love.

Being someone’s second choice hurts.

Emily deserved someone who chose her willingly.

Not someone who was pushed into being with her.

Not someone whose heart was somewhere else.

And that’s probably one of the saddest things about loving someone who doesn’t love you in the same way.

You can be amazing.

You can care deeply.

You can give someone everything.

And they can still love someone else.

That doesn’t make you less worthy.

You can’t make someone love you.

This might be my biggest takeaway from Emily’s story.

She eventually understands that keeping Victor wouldn’t make him love her.

She could have held onto the wedding ring. She could have insisted that he was technically her husband.

But what would be the point if his heart wasn’t with her?

You can’t force feelings into existence.

You can’t love someone enough for both of you.

And sometimes accepting that hurts much less than spending your life trying to convince someone to choose you.

Sometimes letting go is the most loving thing you can do. 

Emily’s ending is sad, but I think there’s something beautiful about it too.

She finally lets Victor go.

She doesn’t get the love story she imagined, but she gets to stop holding onto something that was never truly hers.

And maybe that’s what growing up teaches us about love.

Sometimes love means staying.

Sometimes love means fighting for someone.

And sometimes love means letting go.

Maybe Corpse Bride isn’t really about a dead woman trying to keep a man.

Maybe it’s about self-worth, betrayal, attachment, and realizing that being chosen isn’t enough if you’re not genuinely loved.

And honestly, I’d rather be someone’s first choice than spend forever trying to convince them to make me one. 

 that’s my Corpse Bride thought of the day. 

Happy October, loves! I hope this month brings you beautiful little surprises, cozy days, good music, and maybe a little bit of magic too. 

Until next time,

With love,

Roshan ♡